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P.E.T. Week 3: Active Listen Some More

Oh boy, it’s been a busy couple of weeks!  We go back to class tomorrow and I haven’t posted about last weeks session!  This week we discussed more about active listening and remembering to avoid roadblocks.  I had a great experience from the prior week which I had been excited about.  Last Monday C did not want to go to school (the girls are in Jr. Kindergarten three days a week).  I used active listening and followed it down to find what the actual problem was.  Apparently C tends to be noisy during their quiet time and is scared the teacher will be mad at her for it.  It is a little tough on them because right now I pick them up halfway through the day, which means they are there waiting for me for about 15 minutes of quiet time.  As it turns out, in a week we will be moving them to full day, so they won’t be up and waiting for me.  Of course this means that they are now going to have to follow the quiet time rules for even longer.  Hopefully it goes well.  Although what is it my training would say? This is their problem?  Ahhh yes.

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P.E.T. Week 2: Active Listening is the Key

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After our second session of parent effectiveness training (P.E.T.) I’m beginning to think our parenting skills are not the only thing that will be improved by attending. Today was about helping children solve their problems. This technique is to be used when the problem is only the child’s. We went over roadblocks to communication – which surprisingly enough include questioning, advising, praising and sympathizing. We had a chance to “try out” using the different roadblocks with each other as we each took turns talking about a problem. We both used real life problems too. It was immediately obvious that the roadblocks truly are that. When helping a child, or anyone for that matter out, it is important to be accepting, genuine and empathetic towards the person. From there you can use skills such as attending, silence and active listening. We practiced active listening – which involves hearing facts and feeling and then responding in a way that the speaker knows that you are truly understanding. And the best part? If you aren’t understanding correctly, by sending it back to the speaker they can correct you so you do understand. Active listening is not simply repeating or rephrasing what was said, it is truly getting to the feelings and emotions behind the words.

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